Sunday, August 4, 2024
"How's the new place?" they ask.
Some might wonder how I could not love the "new place". After all it's cute, right? Reminiscent of a little New England style cottage.
Everyone who visits always comments on how cozy the "new place" feels.
"It's low maintenance, gated security, plenty of activities available and clubs to join," they say.
I am trying to love the "new place". I've dressed it up with curtains and carpets. I'm in the process of giving the kitchen a face lift with shiny new cabinets.
I've hung Ross' prized artwork and displayed his precious thrift store finds.
All of the furniture here in the "new place" is the furniture I brought with me from our old place. I've re-arranged the living room a hundred times.
I placed the "Big Toe" flower pot, the one that always made us smile, under the front yard tree and had the landscaping redone.
And so, when they ask "hows the new place?"
I answer, "Ross isn't here."
And that's okay. It won't feel like home. You're missing a huge part of what makes it a home. I hope one day you can find some joy in the "new place", but until then, I hope you are taking care of you.
ReplyDeleteThank you for. you encouraging words
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ReplyDeleteNo, but I bet he'd be happy to see you in this cute as a button cottage. It takes time to make a place your own and a little longer to have it feel like home. There's no rush. 😘 YAM xx
I agree, Ross would want me to be happy :)
DeleteSending love and hugs your way. I remember when I finally realized I needed to make my house MY home. We'd only lived in it a month before he passed (happy to see me where I wanted to retire). Due to his cancer, we slept in dual recliners in our bedroom. It was over a year before I replaced them with a real bed. Keep doing what you need to do for YOU!
ReplyDeleteOh Donna, I'm sorry for your loss. Thank you for your encouraging words and understanding.
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